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Wishing you well…Or not!

Do you want to go out?  What are you up to?  Why don’t you come over?  Do you have a minute…I need to talk.  Let’s go shopping.  Have you seen …?  These are the questions your single friends will ask at any time of the day or night…that’s until you move in with your guy.  The phone calls stop.  They don’t even check on you to see how things are going…I take that back…to see if things are going badly.  Once things turn out to work out and you’re happy…you can turn your phone in and actually get a pre-paid phone because you are not using minutes with no one other than family members and other people who are in relationships.

He says:  Why don’t your girlfriends call anymore?  What happened?

She says: I don’t know.  I thought they were happy for me.

She doesn’t know how to feel about this. She reflects and re-evaluates how she’s treated them.  She recalls always supportive when they were in relationships.  She’s helped them with their problems.  She gave them a shoulder to lean on and if they ever needed it…a few bucks for whatever.

Many women find it difficult to wish other women happiness.  Why is that?  They can do it when they are part of a sorority.  Or is that forced too…because you’re supposed to be supportive.  What is it about?  Women can be the most nurturing and giving human being; but when it comes to a friend having a relationship and the friend empty handed.zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz  the friendship sleeps.  It becomes dormant.  Were they ever friends?  Do you invite them to the wedding?  I mean, you’ve never had an argument to end the relationship…it just dissolved within the debauched friendship.

What do you do?  Do you call and make them respond to their insecurities? Do you just wish them well? Because really, that’s the type of person you are.  Do you care? What do you do?

Stay in your lane….babe

“Babe you look good.” “ You look sexy in those heels.” “That smile of yours warms me.” “Damn, you look good in that dress!” “And that ass…..mmmmmm.” “ I’m so proud to have you on my arm.” “ I can’t wait till we get home!” “You are the most beautiful woman I know. I’m blessed.”

All of these things are wonderful. However, there is the moment when he says while looking at another woman, “Why don’t you wear your hair like that?”  “That would look good on you.”  “Why don’t you do something else with your hair?”  “Have you ever tried eye lashes?”  “Why don’t you let your nails grow?”

The look of “Why don’t you do something different with your hair? Your belly?  Why don’t you change your hair cut?  Let me update your closet.”  How about this, “let’s do something different in the bedroom.”  “Let’s invite an extra guy over.”  Well, after making the mistake of saying one of the above, I responded and he was not pleased.

STAY IN YOUR LANE!  I love you the way you are…Love me for who I am.

I’m not opposed to spicing things up in the bedroom; or trying new styles in my wardrobe.  But consider where I work; what I do and if it’s appropriate.

There will always be someone more attractive, eye catching for either one of you. And when we have date night, let us do our best to impress each other.  Otherwise, Stay in Your Lane; because I’ve got this.