It amazes me that just because now a magazine wants to get in on the action, Bill Cosby is guilty. This is a smear campaign. Let’s look at the scenario from the beginning. A comedian who wanted to get in good with some….folks, accused Bill Cosby of sexual assault and rape- That flourished the internet. The Media, then stated that Bill Cosby secretly drugged the ladies. The transcripts came out and it states that : Did you know you were taking a Quaalude? answer: Yes. So since it wasn’t a secret to the women, the media changed its angle. Saying that he drugged the women. Something Bill Cosby stated himself. Now, they are opening sealed documents from over 10 years ago. Now call me crazy, sealed has a definition of its own.
My country tis of thee, sweet land of liberty of thee I sing… America has a judicial system that is not for African Americans. I have watched numerous beatings and unethical practices done by police officers, and police officers get off. I’ve watched people destroy O.J. Simpson things when they didn’t like the verdict. I’ve sat on a trial listening to a transplant from Texas say, “I’m not going to let that guy get off because he can sue the cops.” Now, I’m a very open-minded person, and do not like to prejudge. But society is showing its true colors by pursuing this. When someone says the LGBT society is just like the treatment of blacks…this is when once again it differs. This is when the treatment goes to the extreme. I’m not in favor of sexual assault, or abuse, but all of the women have something in common. They wanted private time with Mr. Cosby; they all knew he was married; they wanted a favor; they had an ulterior motive; no one is speaking about that. Because when perhaps Paris H; L. Lohan, or someone else got high and had sex it seemed to be okay. Now, 10-20 or more years later, the media will pursue and attack the black man Bill Cosby; smear his credentials….open sealed documents….SHAME ON YOU MEDIA SHAME ON YOU JUDICIAL SYSTEM. SHAME ON YOU.
THIS IS JUST A SIMPLY PROVOCATIVE THOUGHT…WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS
Many people have been betrayed by someone they love. But how do you move on with that person? When it’s your mother, do you erase the act and start all over again because she’s your mom? When it’s your brother or sister, do you erase the act because he/she is family? When it’s a relative, does that person get the same regard as a parent or sibling? You love them because they are your family versus because you have established a real relationship of some sort with the person.
And let’s talk about friends, I guess by today’s standards. How many foul plays are accepted before you walk away? Or do you have categories, like the friend you go shopping with, or the movies, but a different one for going out, another for couple events? Do you trust them only within their category? Or do you wholeheartedly trust them; and if they go beyond the barriers they are out for the category or just out? Or are you just a good friend and love them for who they are and want the best for them? (is this an antiquated way of thinking by today’s standards?
Is one more important than the other? Last thought, when you’re married, do you trust that your spouse is going to take care of you if you should get sick? Does that other person puts the uncomfortable moments aside and does everything to comfort you? Or does he/she act in the most complaining way; minimalistic-does what has to be done, and disregard the new things that need attention;the compromising of the self for the sick? I don’t know. Just pondering if one is more important than the other.
Personally, I think….well you tell me what you think.
Do you want to go out? What are you up to? Why don’t you come over? Do you have a minute…I need to talk. Let’s go shopping. Have you seen …? These are the questions your single friends will ask at any time of the day or night…that’s until you move in with your guy. The phone calls stop. They don’t even check on you to see how things are going…I take that back…to see if things are going badly. Once things turn out to work out and you’re happy…you can turn your phone in and actually get a pre-paid phone because you are not using minutes with no one other than family members and other people who are in relationships.
He says: Why don’t your girlfriends call anymore? What happened?
She says: I don’t know. I thought they were happy for me.
She doesn’t know how to feel about this. She reflects and re-evaluates how she’s treated them. She recalls always supportive when they were in relationships. She’s helped them with their problems. She gave them a shoulder to lean on and if they ever needed it…a few bucks for whatever.
Many women find it difficult to wish other women happiness. Why is that? They can do it when they are part of a sorority. Or is that forced too…because you’re supposed to be supportive. What is it about? Women can be the most nurturing and giving human being; but when it comes to a friend having a relationship and the friend empty handed.zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz the friendship sleeps. It becomes dormant. Were they ever friends? Do you invite them to the wedding? I mean, you’ve never had an argument to end the relationship…it just dissolved within the debauched friendship.
What do you do? Do you call and make them respond to their insecurities? Do you just wish them well? Because really, that’s the type of person you are. Do you care? What do you do?
When I woke up this morning, I didn’t anticipate being alone -Alone in my mind; alone in my relationship; alone in my marriage; alone with my thoughts.
Separation and Divorce is not something that anyone places on their 5,10, or lifetime goal list, but it’s a reality. Learning how to transition is the most easy sounding but difficult thing to accomplish while experiencing this life changing event. Your friends change, your priorities change; life is changing before your eyes. There’s no time for preparation. Although you may see it happening, when it comes to an end it hits you. BOOM! So what do you do? This blog is here to assist; suggest; and help you understand yourself better, make good decisions and move forward in a positive manner. It’s never about the negative but the positive that you must seek and acquire in order to move on with your life. YOU ARE IMPORTANT. It’s very important that you truly know and understand that as that is the only way you succeed.