It amazes me that just because now a magazine wants to get in on the action, Bill Cosby is guilty. This is a smear campaign. Let’s look at the scenario from the beginning. A comedian who wanted to get in good with some….folks, accused Bill Cosby of sexual assault and rape- That flourished the internet. The Media, then stated that Bill Cosby secretly drugged the ladies. The transcripts came out and it states that : Did you know you were taking a Quaalude? answer: Yes. So since it wasn’t a secret to the women, the media changed its angle. Saying that he drugged the women. Something Bill Cosby stated himself. Now, they are opening sealed documents from over 10 years ago. Now call me crazy, sealed has a definition of its own.
My country tis of thee, sweet land of liberty of thee I sing… America has a judicial system that is not for African Americans. I have watched numerous beatings and unethical practices done by police officers, and police officers get off. I’ve watched people destroy O.J. Simpson things when they didn’t like the verdict. I’ve sat on a trial listening to a transplant from Texas say, “I’m not going to let that guy get off because he can sue the cops.” Now, I’m a very open-minded person, and do not like to prejudge. But society is showing its true colors by pursuing this. When someone says the LGBT society is just like the treatment of blacks…this is when once again it differs. This is when the treatment goes to the extreme. I’m not in favor of sexual assault, or abuse, but all of the women have something in common. They wanted private time with Mr. Cosby; they all knew he was married; they wanted a favor; they had an ulterior motive; no one is speaking about that. Because when perhaps Paris H; L. Lohan, or someone else got high and had sex it seemed to be okay. Now, 10-20 or more years later, the media will pursue and attack the black man Bill Cosby; smear his credentials….open sealed documents….SHAME ON YOU MEDIA SHAME ON YOU JUDICIAL SYSTEM. SHAME ON YOU.
THIS IS JUST A SIMPLY PROVOCATIVE THOUGHT…WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS
Many people have been betrayed by someone they love. But how do you move on with that person? When it’s your mother, do you erase the act and start all over again because she’s your mom? When it’s your brother or sister, do you erase the act because he/she is family? When it’s a relative, does that person get the same regard as a parent or sibling? You love them because they are your family versus because you have established a real relationship of some sort with the person.
And let’s talk about friends, I guess by today’s standards. How many foul plays are accepted before you walk away? Or do you have categories, like the friend you go shopping with, or the movies, but a different one for going out, another for couple events? Do you trust them only within their category? Or do you wholeheartedly trust them; and if they go beyond the barriers they are out for the category or just out? Or are you just a good friend and love them for who they are and want the best for them? (is this an antiquated way of thinking by today’s standards?
Is one more important than the other? Last thought, when you’re married, do you trust that your spouse is going to take care of you if you should get sick? Does that other person puts the uncomfortable moments aside and does everything to comfort you? Or does he/she act in the most complaining way; minimalistic-does what has to be done, and disregard the new things that need attention;the compromising of the self for the sick? I don’t know. Just pondering if one is more important than the other.
Personally, I think….well you tell me what you think.
Do you know, where you’re going to? Do you like the things that life is showing you? Where are you going to? Do you know? Do you get, what you’re hoping for when you look behind and there’s no open door? What are you hoping for? Do you know? The theme from “Mahogany” by Diana Ross rings in my mind on a daily basis. As soon as I get a chance to gather my thoughts and begin to review and analyze the crisis of America regarding race, something else happens. In the 21st Century, the dreams of having a good relationship, having a good job, addressing or not addressing racism still exist. Some of us paint our faces everyday with a strength to keep our jobs, to be good mothers and fathers, to be great educators, people..in all professions..just to survive. We are unable to demonstrate the disappointment with our society in fear of losing our jobs, livelihood. It seems that certain minorities will never have a voice.
I recently read an article regarding Starbucks adding the phrase to their cups attempting to spark a conversation regarding race-relations. I did not think that was an ideal thing for Starbucks simply because their clientele is predominately white and are at certain socio-economic status. In my mind, this would be another forum held by people who it doesn’t directly effect. But, I do commend them on thinking of the idea.
Where do we start as a country? There are African American organizations who are addressing and discussing the issues; which is great. However, we need to have a diverse panel to begin together. We need politicians to put aside their personal agendas, and personal views and acknowledge the problems America is ignoring. News anchors attempt to compile programs to address issues that most minorities already know and face on a daily basis and feel good about themselves because they think they are opening the eyes to Americans. But they are not. They are telling a repetitive story of racism and the inequities in society, but does nothing about…except video tape, and sometimes discuss…but never really attempt to resolve.
Let’s have the conversation. Take the kid gloves off. It’s well overdue. Begin now.
When saying goodbye is hard to do… So you’ve been in the long term relationship that you thought in the beginning would last a lifetime. You both are opposites; and you see how each person balances the other. However, there has never been any verbal exclusivity. It worked because both parties like the sense of togetherness and separateness at his and her own convenience. Six years down the road, you find yourself wanting a real commitment. What do you do? How do you change the pattern to help the other party understand you are serious? You start off with the conversation that explains the needs and wants. When he or she reacts opposing, do you stay because there is love there, or do you leave? Do you give the person time to think about what is wanted? If so, how long do you wait? What’s at stake? Is it an all or nothing deal? Depending on the age, the tolerance will vary. I believe women will put up with the male as long as she can;, however, there will be a breaking point. A point of no return. Is that worth it? Is it not better to leave when you’ve expressed your needs and desires that are not being met? This way at least there’s a possible friendship. Or do you hold out with the hope of him wanting and acting upon the same. After 45, it’s very difficult to date as a woman. Many have already had families, divorced or with children. And men tend to look for women with body types liking a 30 year old. So that leaves women from 45-50 with young men who don’t seem to be afraid to approach them and hit on them; and can probably yank a hair or two; but no conversation; or the retirees who have different needs and activities because you’re still working. So, what do you do? Do you say goodbye for the unknown? Or do you keep the predictable complacent relationship that warrants half ass happiness? When do you say goodbye?