Archive | May 2014

When saying goodbye is hard to do…

When saying goodbye is hard to do…
So you’ve been in the long term relationship that you thought in the beginning would last a lifetime. You both are opposites; and you see how each person balances the other. However, there has never been any verbal exclusivity. It worked because both parties like the sense of togetherness and separateness at his and her own convenience. Six years down the road, you find yourself wanting a real commitment. What do you do? How do you change the pattern to help the other party understand you are serious?
You start off with the conversation that explains the needs and wants. When he or she reacts opposing, do you stay because there is love there, or do you leave? Do you give the person time to think about what is wanted? If so, how long do you wait? What’s at stake? Is it an all or nothing deal?
Depending on the age, the tolerance will vary. I believe women will put up with the male as long as she can;, however, there will be a breaking point. A point of no return. Is that worth it? Is it not better to leave when you’ve expressed your needs and desires that are not being met? This way at least there’s a possible friendship. Or do you hold out with the hope of him wanting and acting upon the same.
After 45, it’s very difficult to date as a woman. Many have already had families, divorced or with children. And men tend to look for women with body types liking a 30 year old. So that leaves women from 45-50 with young men who don’t seem to be afraid to approach them and hit on them; and can probably yank a hair or two; but no conversation; or the retirees who have different needs and activities because you’re still working. So, what do you do? Do you say goodbye for the unknown? Or do you keep the predictable complacent relationship that warrants half ass happiness?
When do you say goodbye?