The cliche’ “Men are from mars and women are from Venus” is executed every second of the day. It’s ridiculous! It’s amazing that one can communicate with people one doesn’t care deeply about on a regular basis (Social Media) and the people who we deeply care about has us walking on eggshells! Why is this? Because we have an engagement and investment in the one we love, we don’t want to rock the boat, make them feel bad, however, we at that point are not respecting ourselves…our own feelings.
Remedy: Everyone needs to take off the EGO hat, place it on the side and have the conversation of…Listen, Digest..and Respond..If necessary. It’s not always necessary. If it doesn’t add to the discussion..it’s not necessary. If it develops the concern or topic..ok. But make sure the listening factor is totally on.
Although there are several ways of communication it is important to select one that coincides with your relationship. If a person demonstrates anger by not talking and the other party doesn’t understand the silence…then it’s not working. Somewhere along the line there has to be a happy median..or it’s not considered communication. We all need each other..so might as well communicate effectively.