Archive | August 2013

Communication…sucks!

Communication…sucks!.

The cliche’ “Men are from mars and women are from Venus” is  executed every second of the day.  It’s ridiculous!  It’s amazing that one can communicate with people one doesn’t care deeply about on a regular basis (Social Media) and the people who we deeply care about has us walking on eggshells!  Why is this?  Because we have an engagement and investment in the one we love, we don’t want to rock the boat, make them feel bad, however, we at that point are not respecting ourselves…our own feelings.

Remedy:  Everyone needs to take off the EGO hat, place it on the side and have the conversation of…Listen, Digest..and Respond..If necessary.  It’s not always necessary.  If it doesn’t add to the discussion..it’s not necessary. If it develops the concern or topic..ok.  But make sure the listening factor is totally on.

Although there are several ways of communication it is important to select one that coincides with your relationship.  If a person demonstrates anger by not talking and the other party doesn’t understand the silence…then it’s not working.  Somewhere along the line there has to be a happy median..or it’s not considered communication.  We all need each other..so might as well communicate effectively.

Lonely but not Alone

When I woke up this morning, I didn’t anticipate being alone -Alone in my mind; alone in my relationship; alone in my marriage; alone with my thoughts.

Separation and Divorce is not something that anyone places on their 5,10, or lifetime goal list, but it’s a reality. Learning how to transition is the most easy sounding but difficult thing to accomplish while experiencing this life changing event.  Your friends change, your priorities change; life is changing before your eyes.  There’s no time for preparation.  Although you may see it happening, when it comes to an end it hits you. BOOM!  So what do you do?  This blog is here to assist; suggest; and help you understand yourself better, make good decisions and move forward in a positive manner.  It’s never about the negative but the positive that you must seek and acquire in order to move on with your life. YOU ARE IMPORTANT.  It’s very important that you truly know and understand that as that is the only way you succeed.